3 months ago
If you're having casual sex with anyone, you should expect to wear a condom. Frankly, anyone who is willing not to use a condom is a bright flashing red flag. If they're going to have unprotected sex with me, who else have they done it with? What are they bringing into my bed? Let's examine some of the excuses men have actually told me. 1) "It doesn't feel as good." No duh, and I agree. But ya know what also doesn't feel good? Childbirth, child support, any number of STIs... 2) "I'm clean it's okay." Sorry dude, this only works for someone I know very well and can trust. I need to know their sexual history, who they fuck, who they fuck unprotected, who their partners fuck, their last test, etc. Plus I've been lied to on this matter by a boyfriend, so I'm careful about who I choose to believe now. 3) "I don't have any on me." If you're a sexually active person, and enjoy and/or have a d*ck, you should always have condoms. Especially if you're in a situation where sex may arise. Not having a condom is a reason not to have sex, not an excuse to have unprotected sex. 4) "I'm too big." Come on now, I can I stick my foot in a regular sized condom. But if you need a bigger condom, always bring them with you. 5) "I can't c*m wearing a condom." Wait, does that mean you can go for hours without a climax? First, awesome, let's do that. Second, hahaha, welcome to life as a straight woman. Third, there are other ways to finish. 6) "I can't stay hard." This one really sucks, but it's likely psychosomatic. I'm not risking my health for your boner. 7) "It's okay, I trust you." Legit, one guy (total stranger) told that to me. So what, buddy? -- Now two adults can make any decision they want about having consensual unprotected sex. But I have had enough of people using lazy excuses to justify their impulse for a slightly increased pleasure when my health is at risk. Stop expecting people to be as risky as you, and stop pressuring or tricking them into it too.