1 day ago
Realizing that the all opportunities you take on aren’t guarantees that they’ll succeed, is the antidote of disappointment.
The math is simple. We put in X amount of work, we expect X amount of returns. Reality has a different equation for us to work on though. We expect outcomes, corresponding to how much work we put in. Anything less is equated to failure, disappointment.
But, the materialization of the plan you had originally won’t always occur. You had the opportunity to, but just because you tried (even, really hard), it doesn’t denote that success for it is guaranteed to be obtained. Contrary to popular belief, what you put into, is NOT always what you’ll get out from it. Initially, I was frustrated and demotivated by this viewpoint. As an overly-enthusiastic individual, that tries to bite off more than she can chew, it’s a hard pill to swallow when all the opportunity that comes your way doesn’t eventuate. Especially, when you truly give it your best. But, I blurred the lines between being optimistic to achieve and being self-deprecating if I didn’t. It’s not promised that everything I do will be a triumph. It’s an expectation. A flawed one. Expectations have led to more disappointment than the actual failure itself. If anything, it’s rather entitled. To assume because you did, you should have.
However, there’s only one thing worse than failed expectations. And that is the avoidance of opportunity because of the fear that it may not actualize. This doubt will take you no farther. This doubt will hinder you more so than if you had just failed. Fear of falling isn’t an excuse to not try to get up and reach higher heights. That said, it’s a two-way street; expectations are burdening, whether it’s overly-optimistic or overly-pessimistic. So, be realistic. Look at opportunities as what they are; opportunities. No more, no less.
Don’t expect to fail, don’t expect a guarantee to success. All you can do, at the end of the day, is your best.
As they say, you win some, you lose some. ;)🌻