2 weeks ago
Judging. That is a topic that has been on my mind a lot lately. Do you realize how frequently you judge others? I didn't.
I went through something traumatic 20 years ago that taught me not to judge others. We might be in similar situations as others but one can never truly understand what someone else is going through as we each have different personalities, upbringing (even in the same family), life experiences, culture, religious beliefs, etc.
This has became a major part of who I am today, so I'm really bothered by this recent development.
Lately I have caught myself judging...and then learning how completely wrong I was. It can be about seemingly little things, but also big ones.
The food delivery person that went around and around and around looking for our house instead of calling or looking at the map at the entrance...I was getting upset. Turns out the person is going through cancer treatment and can't think clearly.
Someone else is rude to a loved one and I call them out on their behavior then they became angry with me and became rude, disrespectful, and hostile. I find out later they were dealing with latent childhood trauma right before, plus they are young and just starting to learn.
My great grandma had a poem she used as a bookmark in her bible. It's called Some Mother's Child. It's about remembering the person you're upset with, horrified by, think is lazy or defiled... whatever it is you're thinking, is some mothers child. Treat the person with compassion, if for no other reason, because they are some Mother's child.
Or it can be something else we have no clue about.