8 hours ago
I’m someone who has a tendency (for better or worse) to aggressively defend my independence. My self-sufficiency. My ability to not need help for... well... pretty much anything. And if (more like when) i have to ask for help/advice/assistance, yeeeeahhh, last resort... and my ego starts smarting. And it’s all just a hassle, really.
I don’t really think this is a good way to be. It’s just been my way. It’s safe here, not needing anyone, not having to wait around, not having the heartache or disappointment of rejection if someone i ask can’t help.
But lately, lately I’ve been realizing how important, and GOOD, it is to open oneself up to others. In my personal life and in business. To invite others to offer a hand and to extend a hand to them as well. We all come from different places, with different backgrounds, and are living different experiences. What one person is missing or has difficulty with, another may have mastered, and if not, sometimes, it can be powerful to know you’re not alone.
@itsannamaephoto gave me a call today. We’ve been long time friends (met through ig... yeah, it happens), worked multiple wedding seasons together, and have experienced some low lows and high highs of life. She and I are learning the same thing right now: that we need others. In her words, that we don’t live in a vacuum; we NEED others in our industry. We need to celebrate one another. To open ourselves to critique. To invite others into our stories. To learn from one another and our unique experiences. Of course we CAN fly without others, and sometimes, we need to, but it’s so much more beautiful and richer with others.
Photos of @itsannamaephoto ‘cause she’s a badass. And one she took of me when i was pregnant, ‘cause it’s one of my favorites.