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People who are close to you and love you might make allowances and excuses for you when they see a side of you that's hard to love, because they may have the privilege to see and experience your other sides that holds so much to love, that loves and is loved, so they are patient and love you for you, whether you're love-full, love-less, love-lost.
People who don't know you or know little or nothing about you, may have only one side or two of you, the only side, sides they've seen, that you may have shown.
They will react, respond to you based on how you choose to be, are with them, or how they choose to be, want, to be with you, or what lies in that relational space between you that combines and creates layers and shades to your viewing and valuing of each other from each other's vantage position.
In the end, the decision to see another person in some of their dimensionality despite the depth of closeness or degrees of separation, is to see them as us, capable of loving and being loved, even if in measures of love that may be enough for us or not for us.
This is what gives us permission to wait with patience and to have hope in a person, if, we are in a position to do so, for the possibility of seeing other sides of that person and what more they have to them.
This is what also allows us to take the decision to walk away, knowing that all we were given of a whole person was a side, and that the side we saw, was shown, that we see of that person is not all to them, may not be most of them, but that this side is enough for us to form an opinion, and that we have the choice to return to confirm or correct our view of that person, if and when we have a better view of them from more sides; which we may get if they change positions or we do.
And, it is in this viewing of others that we will see some more of our sides in fuller view, that we will get a clearer view of a world of differences, of diversity and decisions we have the power to make and take, constantly in how we are in the world and how we are in the world with others.