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Letting Go (Minus The Drama) 🎭 . We sometimes have this idea that something was never really good if it doesn’t last forever or doesn’t end at its finish line. We think something bad needs to happen, that there needs to be some dramatic end to a story to justify it being over. We stay in a room that has lost all of its light just because nothing has FORCED us out yet. . Sometimes we end up unintentionally CREATING that dramatic ending by trying hard to determine who was at fault, by blaming, by trying to force conversations in a desperate attempt to be understood. . When we are doing that, we are often either trying to fight against something we already intuitively know to be true, or looking for confirmation about where we are/the decision we have made from others - an acknowledgement of our pain or the problem we have identified, an apology, someone’s defensiveness, an outburst that justifies our anger. . We want our next move (or the lack of it) to be the RIGHT one and we want others to show us that it is. We often don’t let our inner guidance, our own knowing of right and wrong be enough. We don’t trust ourselves and everything life has taught us so far enough to move forward without a clear cut, escalation, or “permission”. . Letting go gracefully involves letting go of the NEED to justify an ending in the eyes of others, the need to blame, to feel guilty, to be understood at all costs. It’s the readiness to make your OWN decision and take full responsibility for what that means. . Something can be good for exactly WHAT it was and WHEN it was. An ending that is earlier than planned or expected doesn’t have to devalue the experience. A life taken too early was not a life wasted, a relationship that ended was not a lie, a part of your journey that ended before you were ready doesn’t mean that it wasn’t exactly what you needed to happen in preparation for the next step.❤️ . P.s. I’m not saying there aren’t things worth fighting for or working on, but when we try to cling to something that is already causing some pain for dear life, our fear of letting go is part of the problem. And sometimes learning to let go is ultimately what will allow us to stay.