42 minutes ago
COPING WITH LOSS 💗
Today I want to chat about how I’ve been coping with my grief and loss of my sweet Myla. It’s been 10 days since I’ve said goodbye to my dearest friend and believe me when I say my wounds are still very open and my heart still feels as though it’s broken but day by day I am allowing myself to heal. 🙏🏻 There is absolutely no “instant fix” when it comes to grief and loss and each of us is affected by the loss of certain people and animals in different ways. I know for me, Myla was very much like my child and so the pain of losing her was and still is very tragic.
These past 10 days I’ve went through many periods of denial and disbelief, I’ve weeped and screamed, sat in the deafening silence, meditated, took many deep breaths and reminisced on all of our day to day memories. I am aware that the extent of my grief will lessen and no longer be at the forefront of my mind but for now I am allowing my intense emotions to be present as I know it’s all a part of the healing process
My advice to anyone coping with grief and loss. EXPRESS YOURSELF, talking is often a good way to soothe painful emotions. Reach out to family and friends or a health care professional to talk about your feelings and help with the healing process. ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL SAD, believe me it’s a very healthy part of the grieving process. KEEP YOUR ROUTINE UP, for me I needed to stay busy and get out of the house. I continued to work out and do my errands etc whatever you can handle but don’t push too far. SLEEP, emotional strain as you know is so exhausting, try to get some sleep at night it will be so beneficial to help you heal. AVOID THINGS THAT “NUMB” THE PAIN, such as alcohol. It often makes you feel worse once the numbness wears off and is only temporary. GO TO COUNSELLING if it feels right for you, don’t ever be ashamed to see someone that may give you a new perspective on your situation and shed some light in this very dark time
Most of all, BE KIND TO YOURSELF. I know for me I am just beginning to prepare for the “new normal” of a life without Myla. This may take many more weeks or even months and that is absolutely OK
Myla, I miss & love you 👼