1 day ago
I always thought that love was a condition by which others were responsible to create for me😬
I chased love. The more I chased love the more love disappointed me. Broke me. Caused me pain 💔
I fantasized about love. I read about love. I watched stories about love.
But love was always shown to me as something I had to get. Something I would achieve. Something that existed outside of me and if I didn’t get it, well then I failed. If I didn’t get it, I wasn’t going to be happy.
Or better yet, I wasn’t worthy of having it. Or so that’s what I decided.
When I finally had enough of making Love a condition or something I had to conquer...when I really got tired of having my heart shattered into a million little pieces...I woke up.
See, what I learned was that love isn’t something I win, nor something I get. Love is my essence. It is my birthright. It is my being.
And just as gently and as big as I give love away...when I don’t give it to myself, I can’t possibly share it with anyone else!
So I got to work and I started to look at myself differently. I started to appreciate all of me, unconditionally. I fell in love with it all. Not just my beauty, nor my perfections nor my good moments...all of it.
Because if I, for one moment, deny the parts of me that aren’t the best parts of me, I deny ME.
We are whole beings. Perfectly imperfect, yet whole. Flawed, yet whole. Scared, yet whole.
No one is responsible to make us whole! Nor fall in love with us.
If you don’t fall madly in love with the magnificence of YOU, no one else can either. And...you can’t possibly be in love with anyone else.
Tag a friend 👇 who can use this reminder today...