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BISEXUALITY IS NOT A MYTH, A PHASE, OR FOR YOU TO ERASE.
As a queer woman, I find myself censoring who I am to appease others. I used to feel so much power behind the word ‘lesbian’, not because my attraction was exclusive toward one type of person, but because it made me feel like a better queer individual. I remind myself that my bisexuality does not make me any less queer, but constantly I feel shifts around me when I simply use the word “bisexual” in place of “queer”. Countless times when asked my sexuality, I say just that, queer - the word “bisexual” is always followed by rolling eyes or shrugs of shoulders, doubt. Being afab, I have always felt the need to downplay my sexuality, simply say “queer” to save myself from disconnect from the cis gay men that take up so much space. I do not have to prove myself in my own spaces. When I say I’m bisexual, I don’t say this to fit into my own spaces, I don’t have to try.
I am tired of trying to cover parts of myself to feel more worthy in my community. I will no longer let myself be erased to allow others to find me more valid.