10 hours ago
Ali suddenly sent me this through DM; “You are my better half... and I love you as a whole. I’m so blessed to have you as my wife”
I fikir “eh, kenapa tiba-tiba, sweet-sweet ni?” He replied just one word “saje” with hearts emoji. Ye lah dulu belum kahwin, lelaki kalau nak ayat perempuan, selalulah hantar ayat bunga-bunga ni. Tapi bila dah kahwin ni jarang-jarang atau tak langsung
Have you ever wondered why men/husbands stop doing all those lovey doveys they did before you guys got married? The way men think and we women think are so different. Sebelum kahwin dia belum ada responsibilities. Belum rasa susah, nak cari duit untuk bini, anak semua. In fact duit nak bagi kat parents. Bila dah kahwin, banyak sangat responsibilities diorang, bukan setakat nak cari duit, tapi nak tanggung dosa anak bini, nak bimbing anak bini ke syurga, nak make sure his little family are safe. Nak jaga hati mak ayah dia lagi. Tanggung jawab anak sebagai anak lelaki kat mak tu. Kira pokok pangkal semuanya
Banyak and macam-macam perkara dalam kepala dia. Sebab tu it’s not like they forget how to be sweet and all. But they mostly focus on the real stuff like how to survive, how to make more money to provide and give a comfortable life and home for his wife and kids. That kind of stuff. Not like how we always see celebrities buat surprise and sweet-sweet semua tu.
Susah nak faham masa mula-mula kahwin dulu. I’m so blessed to have the ability to understand him now, his situation which I failed in the beginning of our marriage. And I hope other wives pun, be realistic and don’t expect that your husband kena buat semua benda, and at the same time nak expect him to buat kerja rumah, nak dia sweet-sweet. But if he’s willingly to do all that for you without you even asking, then good. Tapi kalau your husband tak macam tu, cuba faham his situation. Ali selalu pesan “the key in this marriage is understanding.” I’m so grateful that Ali was (and still is) being tremendously patient with me while I was being a difficult wife.
The moment you’re able to understand him, things will get a lot easier, in shaa Allah. So love your whole story. Even if it hasn’t been the perfect celebrity fairytale