2 hours ago
What a valuable piece of advice if applied correctly... I was watching the video by @thefinancialdiet a while back, and she said something quite similar. Her example was when you are following up on a project that needs to be done or should have been done already, don't start the conversation with "I'm JUST following up". Say "I am following up on this thing" After all it is their job, and you should expect them to do it. Don't play down things that you need. This can be applied in may places. When your flake of a boss or a client hasn't paid you yet, or mechanic hasn't finished fixing your car. Don't worry about other people's feelings so much that you burden, or even imped yourself from getting things done. After all. You're probably not the top of the totem pole, and people need things from you in a timely manner too. Don't make them wait because you're afraid to hurt someone's feelings.
Wow, that got into a bit of a tangent, let's take a left on another one.
I can't remember if I heard this from a comedian or maybe just a girl I dated once, but I once apologized to someone because someone they knew died. They then asked me why I apologized, and followed up with something along the lines of did you kill her? Now, it was a little funny, but it did bring some introspection. I then became more aware of when I was apologizing to people. If something bad happened to them I would say I'm sorry as a consolation to the person. Like "I'm sorry" when someone's sick. For a while I just started saying things like t"hat sucks", and "well that's too bad". But with it a little thought I've now started apologizing again, but I try to make it more applicable and comforting. I think we would all agree that the people that we keep in our lives deserve more than two words of comfort. Maybe a little bit of proof that they are heard. So instead of sorry you could say I'm sorry that you have a headache that won't go away. It's only a few more seconds in a few more words but it is caring. So I'll continue to apologize, but I won't apologize for the silly things that don't need apologies. Happy Monday everyone, oh, and thank you David.
#caring #sorry #dontapologize @dovechocolate